In the 12 years that Lilliana Vazquez has worked in the television industry, she barely cried. But parenthood is another story.
“I’ve had horrible days as a TV host… But I think I might have cried once at work,” Vazquez told Know Your Value. Meanwhile, “my son can kill me in three seconds. He can literally make me cry with a bad hour. Finding out how I exist in this new, vulnerable version of me has been really difficult.
Eight weeks ago, “E! News” and “Pop of the Morning” gave birth to a son named Santiago, nicknamed Santi. By battling a newborn’s sleep deprivation and chaos alongside her husband Patrick McGrath, Vazquez has learned a lot about her own resilience and priorities.
“I am a workaholic. I very rarely say ‘no’ to a request from a producer, but having Santi really makes me rethink what I’m saying ‘yes’ to, ”Vazquez said. “It’s a lesson that comes late in life. I am 41 years old and an older mom. It took me having a baby for me to really set limits around my time. It makes me much more efficient as an employee and a producer.
Vazquez only said “yes” to the causes in which she believes, which is why, starting on Friday, she will be organizing the second annual two-day Latinas summit Make a Difference, created by the Latina militant organization Poderistas . The summit will feature Poderistas founders Eva Longoria and America Ferrera, as well as top talent like producer Soledad O’Brien and political strategist Ana Navarro. The event will cover a wide range of topics affecting the Latin community, from fitness to politics.
Vazquez, who is half Mexican and half Puerto Rican, said she was particularly interested in discussing reproductive rights and health care within the Latin American community, in part due to her personal experience. Vazquez underwent IVF treatment and tried to get pregnant for six years, but she did not discuss her trip with her own family.
“I’m generally very open with my family about everything, but I’ve kept it very private,” Vazquez said. “Infertility and reproductive health are strongly stigmatized in the Latin community. We don’t really talk about it. Going through IVF is considered very foreign.
She encouraged women to talk about their experiences and find the support they need.
She added: “There are women who go through this in private and who suffer on their own. There are dangerous stigmas that exist in this community, but the more we talk about it, the easier it will be for us in the future. “
Vazquez reminded women struggling with infertility that IVF is just one tool among many. It is not the universal solution for everyone.
“It’s important to keep all of your options open and remember that being pregnant is one thing, being a parent is another. Adoption, foster care, surrogacy, egg donor, there are so many options when it comes to parenting. Putting pressure on yourself to get pregnant compromises your options, ”she said.
Vazquez takes maternity leave from her Los Angeles home. She continues to work on her personal lifestyle brand LV Guide. In the future, she hopes to do more production and writing projects in the vein of her recent series “Pop on Peacock”.
While promoting militant causes for mothers, Vazquez is also learning to take care of herself during this time of transition.
“I felt lost some days. No one is a super mom. We all try to do our best with these little people. I went from a very regimented system to an instant-to-moment life, ”said Vazquez. “But I’m here to take care of him at all costs. There is such a physiological connection with them. It will dominate whatever you feel for yourself.